Last night we watched a comedy in which three friends are in an immobilised
cable car with a pregnant woman when she goes into labour. The whole thing was
wildly unrealistic, but we nevertheless scoffed at the utter incompetence of the
characters in the face of this emergency.
After it was over, though, I started to think. The male character was
completely useless ... but, truth be told, I was choosing to forget that
my own first human birth was, in terms of my own part in it, an even more
inglorious occasion – happy in its outcome only through good luck.
Nineteen years old, with fellow student Jon, I dropped in on friends Karl and
Hannah in their small town home. Hannah was heavily pregnant. Karl wasn’t there:
Hannah, tired of his fussy worrying and pacing, had ordered him out of the flat
for a night on the town with his friends to give her some peace. She welcomed us
in, sat us down, and went to put a kettle on. Then she screamed. We rushed
through to find her on all fours, on a wet kitchen floor, wide eyed, gasping and
panting.
Wide eyed, gasping and panting ourselves, we ran around in a headless chicken
manner and flapped our hands uselessly until Hannah caught her breath and called
us to order. She told one of us to go out to the telephone in the square, call
the midwife whose number was pinned to the kitchen door frame, then find Jon and
bring him home.
I would have welcomed the chance to be out doing something and
away from the centre of useless responsibility, but Jon reached the door first
so I was left alone with Hannah.
Hannah, though only twenty and in her first pregnancy, took charge with
natural authority. She sat me in a chair, held my hand, reassured me.
I discovered later that, at under two hours, it was an unbelievably quick and easy
delivery – but at the time it seemed to go on for ever. Hannah saw me through it, patience itself most of that time though there were
a couple of stressful moments when she shouted at me to “stop being a useless
wanker”.
I did as I was told, breathed deeply and stopped panicking when
instructed.
By the time the midwife arrived, I was holding a hastily wiped baby girl
roughly the right way up and Hannah was plying me with heavily sugared coffee.
Jon, who had had to visit many cafés, pubs and bars in his search for Karl,
returned with him some time after that to coo in an inebriated manner over the
baby.
Having seen a fair number of deliveries since then, it's easy to forget, easy
to pretend to myself that I've always been where I am now. But no; I really
shouldn't judge the characters in the ski lift comedy. In fact they stepped up
to the plate better than I.
2 comments:
Oh my goodness... And how many times has this happened to you, exactly?
Births ... I've seen a fair number, now. That level of shocked total incompetence though ... just that once! :-)
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